Oh, Girls! I wrote too soon. Dawn's mother has crash landed in Weirdoville, population 3. Demographics are a bit skewed. All inhabitants are over 60 and all are Missouri Synod Lutherans and all, at this writing, are not speaking to the only angel any of them have ever come in contact with. Strange, yes, that 2 of them birthed her.
Dawn's mother, Maggie took the news of our relationship really well, initially. Like everything else, it was about her, but still. She did well. She agreed that telling Dawn's father, Ed was not a good idea because of his fervent religious zeal and ailing health. Great. Matter closed. Just Kidding.
Unbeknownst to Dawn, Maggie emailed Pastor Ken Klaus, a radio pastor that Ed listens to. They have
met him a few times briefly, but there is no personal relationship to speak of. She told him all about Dawn and how fabulous she is and that she has just recently come out to her and should we tell Ed and how if so and what are your teachings if any on the matter that Ed may have heard on the program and are there any passages she should be aware of in speaking to him and yadda yadda. Well, the good Pastor had a lot to say on the subject, none of it positive. He accused Dawn of "ripping at the fabric of the family" and "playing with fire both spiritually and literally" and of "laying a heavy burden on her mother's heart." Wow.
met him a few times briefly, but there is no personal relationship to speak of. She told him all about Dawn and how fabulous she is and that she has just recently come out to her and should we tell Ed and how if so and what are your teachings if any on the matter that Ed may have heard on the program and are there any passages she should be aware of in speaking to him and yadda yadda. Well, the good Pastor had a lot to say on the subject, none of it positive. He accused Dawn of "ripping at the fabric of the family" and "playing with fire both spiritually and literally" and of "laying a heavy burden on her mother's heart." Wow.So what did Maggie do with this? She showed Ed. Really. That is how she told him about Dawn and me. She showed him her email to Pastor Brimstone and his back to her. As if all of that isn't bad enough, she didn't call to let Dawn know that she had told him. So yesterday morning, Dawn called her folks to find out a good down home remedy for a bee sting. Her father answered and quickly handed the phone to her mother. Still Maggie didn't come clean. Not until Dawn mentioned that I had sent an email to Maggie that needed to be intercepted because I didn't know that Maggie and Ed share an email account (who does that?!), did she confess that she had told him and so it was OK if he saw my email. Dawn did lots of yelling and screaming that it "wasn't yours to tell."
Think that's the end? Nope. Later in the afternoon, Maggie sent out a mass email to Dawn, her 3 siblings and her sister's boyfriend who none of them have ever even met, saying that all of them have a long way to go before they will understand her realtionship with Ed and the depth of their love and commitment to each other and that she doesn't care what anyone thinks of her decision to tell him. Apparently, everyone needed to be involved in the News of the Weird in Weirdoville.
Words of wisdom, please! Barely Breathing - Windy
I am beside myself - speechless. And finding myself even more greatful to have a family like I do. You're right about the angel part... they are all too blind to even see how lucky they are. All I can say is Family Isn't Always By Blood.
ReplyDeleteI will not even pretend to know what you're going through! However, I will share with you a funny thought about that "God Hates Fags" pictures! I recently saw that same photo on a humor website and it was related to how all the Brits had finally come out to protest the sale of cigarettes.
ReplyDeletePlease smile :)
All I can say is that there is sometimes a wide gap between how we believe people should and the reality of how they act. It takes a lot to get through the belief system and accept that sometimes, people act like they have lost their damn minds. It sounds like Dawn's mom has enough going on trying to defend her own relationship to be able to see yours clearly. I have a wackass family as well, so I speak from experience. Just try to draw strength from the fact that you and Dawn know what you have together. And in the meantime, make a dartboard with all of the applicable photos for targets.
ReplyDeleteUgh, I am so sorry you guys have all that drama going on.
ReplyDeleteIf Dawn's parents would rather see their daughter with a person who has a penis regardless of his character instead of someone she loves and is happy with, it's hard to give their opinions much weight.
ReplyDeleteThey've made their life choices, and have no right to make hers, too, so carry on and be happy.