Thursday, March 5, 2009

The Great Debate

Dawn and I have an ongoing debate about how, when and to whom we tell about the nature of our relationship. I want to tell everyone. Right Now. Here are my arguments -

1. If Dawn were a boy, I wouldn’t hesitate to say “husband.” Why should I not refer to her as “wife” or “partner”?

2. I don’t want to get in any deeper than necessary with bigots. I like to get the lesbian revelation out of the way in a new relationship, be it with a new friend or a new business associate or a doctor or anyone else. If the new person is a bigot, I want to know right away.

3. The children. I want to protect the children as much as possible.

Time out: This is where I don't trust you to remember to click on my paying gig, so I'm going to help you. That was the tease. This is the remainder of the article.


  1. great article. i wonder if we will we ever get to a point where diverse family units are accepted and all of this becomes a non-issue. it's one of the many reasons why we need marriage.

  2. oh, i forgot to say...what a picture! you and Dawn up on your soapboxes (?) and in front of your mics passionately debating the topics. kudos to the artist.